Nippon Way to Live Life

 Nippon Way to Live Life

Which will transform the Life

 1 . Going to bed early and wake up early -

 Because people of Japan always worship Rising Sun by saying

“ Thank you for always looking over us and illuminating us ”

Amaterasu Omi kami, is a Shinto deity in Japan means ''Great divine that illuminates heaven '' Known as Sun Goddess  & ruler of heaven .

Kami are the gods of Shintoism

Do Surya Namaskar

 

2 . Drink Matcha  -

 Boost brain function , Protect liver , High in antioxidants , Help in preventing  cancer , Make healthy heart

Drink Tulsi Mint + Veggi Juice

 

3 . Exercise Daily –

 Sweat giving exercise at least 45 minutes .

Do Breathing and Yoga

 Excersize –

Shiko Dashi – Horse Stance ( utkata konasana (goddess pose))

Nekawashi Danchi – Cat Stance

Siza – Proper sitting posture

Caesar

Zazin

Kibo Dachi

Wall Squat – Invisible Chair

 

4 . Clean Toilet –

 Ususama myoo , Japaneese toilet god – Brings economic success

For success and bring luck  ( special in terms of finance ) , Humble our self 

One of the Astrological remedy

  

5 . Put the things back on their own place after using it like chair after eating etc.

            

6 . Organize Shoes

 

7 . Bath every day

 

8 . Eat proper food ( No Junk & Packed )

 

9 . Go chi so sama / Ita da ki mas

 Thank you for the meal - Gratitude to the person who prepare the meal – that I like to thanks to all the person who helped with this meal from seed to this plate

Gratitude for life - To entrust one’s life ( जीव जीव का भोजन – one life is sacrifies for another life ) Like when we eat vegi , those vegi have entrusted  their life to us

Thanks for all ingredients and thinking that I will change your life force into my life force 

 

10 . Hara hachi-bun me-ni isha-i razu ( Hara wa chī-bun me ni ishai razu) 

If your inside (hara) is eight out of tenths full, you will don’t need doctor (isha).

When stomach 80% full Stop eating  “Surfeits slay more than swords ”

Stop eating when 80% full . Eating until full will make us tired & lead yo brain fog , causing Procrastination .

   

11 . Improve body posture of body –

Sit & Sleep straight and walk confidently ( chest out  & shoulder back don’t walk lean )

 

12 . Ware tada ta ru wo chi ru – ( Zen word) – I just know I have enough

वा रे ता दा तारुवो शीरु

 Ware – I , tada – simply ,  ta ru wo – what is enough , chi ru – know

Literally meaning - Knowing that you are contented , will bring peace to your heart

If we look at what we don’t have , we will feel dissatisfied or disappointed with our life . But when we look at something which we already have , we can appreciate it more mean ..

Instead of looking at what we don’t have , we can instantly feel happy by looking at what we have now .

What I have with me I am happy and contented .

( Desi Granni Quote - दूसरों की चीजों को देख कर अपनी चीजों से होने वाली ख़ुशी से वंचित रह जाते हैं !

 

13 . Wabi sabi is about celebrating imperfections and living simply. ( find beauty in imperfections and simplicity )

State of acceptance of the imperfection in life and accepting them as beautiful as they are

 Kintsugi ( means Golden repair ) is the Japanese art of putting broken pottery pieces back together with gold + lacer ( beauty creating by fixing ) — a metaphor for embracing your flaws and imperfections. So fix the things in the life

Repair or fix the things or relation if can means transform negative energy in to positive energy . If can fix then fix it otherwise let them Go .

( Desi Granni Quote  – जब तक फटे को सिलोगे नहीं और रूठे को मानोगे नहीं तब तक घर नहीं चलेगा )

 

14 . Ko to dama ( soul of languages ) Power of spoken words

Words carry invisible power so we must very much aware of speaking words  . Eg . IKEA experiment

Be impeccable with words . like when we say any bad word to anyone we , must be very carefull about it because the effect of the work never not easy to forget .

 

15 . Live minimalist

Choice or decision dilemma for the brain – Brain face challenges when there are too many options or choices  . Amount of brain power or cognitive power that we spend increases proportionally with the choices . too many choices corrupt our system .

Least resources that can help us in whatever we are doing . eg – least clothes to wear least things to carry

Watching all the desires of mind – if mind asking for te same thing in quantity of more which is not going to serve , if mind is constantly craving for the  things which we already have , making irrational decision when buying things ,

When we preserve our cognitive or brain power we can do much better focus ,  Concentrate Attention Memory

  

16 . Use of Pomo doro Method

25 min of focused continuous work and then 5 min break ( like walking and breathing ) use it by putting the Timer

  

17 . Ganbatte Kudasai ne = means Please do your best .

Gun but te khu da sai

गन बत त्ते खु दा साईं

Ganbatte ne = more friendly

Under any circumtances , always do your best no more no less . Keeping this in mind that best is never be the same it varies from time to time

 18 . Do your karma well and don’t too much rely on Luck

Because Luck is not in our control only our best efforts and our free will and our Actions are in my control . so we must believe in ourself more than our Destiny 

Desi Granni Quote “ भाग्य तो लंगड़ा है जो कर्म की बैसाखी पर चलता है “

 

19 . Care and focus on their postures – Back straight

Straight back means person in active and confident with active mind and give attractive personality , also chakra get activate too .

 20 . Kaizen –

Make small daily improvements . Small small regular & consistent steps bring great improvement in life whether in personal deveploment , in relationship , in Career , even get rid of bad habit ,

Focus on small improvements every day – Aiming to become 1% better daily instead of waiting for big changes .

4-Rules –

Do what you Love

Do what you are good at

Do what the world needs

Do what you can be paid for 

 21 . Mottaini = too good to waste - Very conscious about environment , surrounding

Mo ttai nai ( मौ ताई नाइ  )

What we today we are doing that we will impact on our next generation so play our role with full responsibility for next generation

By Recycling , Repairing , Produce less waste , Use things wisely , Save energy and water , keep neat & clean

Desi Granni Quote “ जब तक फटे को सिलोगे नहीं और रूठे को मानोगे नहीं तब तक घर नहीं चलता “

22 . Heta no naga dangi  - Poor preachers talk long.

 Poor preachers, or dull lecturers - bore their audience by their tedious talk ; they do not realize that “brevity is the soul of wit.”

Do not gossips and never give unwanted advices to others

   

23 . Okagesama De = Thanks to you ( I am fine )

ओ का गे समा दे

I am fine because of you

Effect of this – Ego will not boost up and stay down to earth

 

24 . Hakidashisara is a traditional Japanese method for releasing anger and stress.

Hakidashi  means "to spit out" or "to vent."

Sara means "plate" or "dish."

In a festival at Hiyoshi Shrine in Kiyosu City - people write down their anger or frustrations onto small plates , then physically smash the plates to symbolically and emotionally release their negative feelings.

So writing down feelings of anger and then physically destroying what was written (like tearing or discarding the paper) helps reduce anger levels.

 Declutur – things linked to bad memories , Dirty items – clean it or throw like Shoes Wallet Clothes , Excessive decorative items , Dead and dry plants , Cables

Fast Fashion – Wardrobe should be like that every cloth can be worn with any match

Avoid Plastic use

Make bag from old clothes

Don’t buy unnecessary things like kitchen accessories , gadgets , impulsive shopping , paper towels , Branded n expensive things .

 

25 . Shinrin-yoku – Means  " forest bathing " or " taking in the forest atmosphere "

 Helps in - reduce stress , improve health by spending time in nature , sply in forests.

It's not about hiking or exercise—it is all about mindfully immersing self in the forest using all five senses:

·         Sight -  Observing the greenery , the way sunlight filters through leaves

·         Sound -  Listening to birds , rustling leaves , running water

·         Smell -  Inhaling the earthy scents of wood and moss

·         Touch - Feeling the textures of bark or soil

·         Taste -  Sometimes even tasting the fresh air or herbal teas made from forest plants

Shinrin-yoku can lower cortisol levels , reduce blood pressure , improve mood , boost immune system function.

 

26. Gambaru – “doing your best.” It’s almost a way of life

 Depending on context, it can mean:

“Do your best!” (encouragement)

“Hang in there!” (support)

“Keep going, don’t give up.”

 

to stick firmly to something and not give up, to persist with effort until the end

 

27. Shoshin - literally means “beginner’s mind.”

 “Sho” (初) means beginning or first,

and “shin” (心) means mind or heart

It comes from Zen Buddhism — the idea of approaching things with openness, curiosity, and no preconceptions, even when you’re already experienced.

Think like beginner . Be open to learning and trying new things

Approach things with beginner’s mindset – “ If mind is empty . it opens to Everything ” 

 

28 . Oubaitori is a beautiful Japanese concept built from four trees:

sakura (cherry), ume (plum), momo (peach), and tori (apricot).

Each blossoms in its own time and way — none trying to copy the others.So in everyday life, Oubaitori means Don’t compare yourself to anyone else.

Your pace, your season, your bloom — all have their own timing & path in life

Ravana told about Women Behaviour

 रावण ने महिलाओं के बारे में ये 8 बातें अपनी पत्नी मंदोदरी से कही थी।

 

बिहँसा नारि बचन सुनि काना। अहो मोह महिमा बलवाना॥

नारि सुभाउ सत्य सब कहहीं। अवगुन आठ सदा उर रहहीं॥

भावार्थ : पत्नी के वचन कानों से सुनकर रावण खूब हँसा (और बोला -) अहो! मोह (अज्ञान) की महिमा बड़ी बलवान है! स्त्री का स्वभाव सब सत्य ही कहते हैं कि उसके हृदय में आठ अवगुण सदा रहते हैं –

 

साहस अनृत चपलता माया। भय अबिबेक असौच अदाया॥

रिपु कर रूप सकल तैं गावा। अति बिसाल भय मोहि सुनावा॥

भावार्थ : साहस, झूठ, चंचलता, माया (छल), भय (डरपोकपन) अविवेक (मूर्खता), अपवित्रता और निर्दयता। तूने शत्रु का समग्र (विराट) रूप गाया और मुझे उसका बड़ा भारी भय सुनाया॥2॥

 

अत्याधिक साहस

रामचरित मानस में वर्णित दोहे के अनुसार पत्नियों में जो पहला अवगुण पाया जाता है वह है ‘बहुत ज्यादा साहस होना’। साहस होना अच्छी बात है लेकिन रावण के अनुसार स्त्रियां अपने साहस का अमूमन गलत जगह इस्तेमाल कर लेती हैं। इसलिए वह बहुत बार ऐसे काम कर जाती हैं जिससे बाद में उन्हें और उनके परिवार को पछताना पड़ता है। रावण आगे कहता है कि स्त्रियाँ इस बात का निर्णय नही ले पाती कि साहस का कैसे और किस जगह उचित प्रयोग करना चाहिए l जब साहस  बिना समझ के अत्याधिक प्रयोग किया जाता है तब वो दुःसाहस बन जाता है l

 

झूठ 

रावण के अनुसार पत्नियों में जो दूसरा अवगुण देखने को मिलता है वह है ‘उनकी निरंतर झूठ बोलने की आदत’। ऐसा नहीं है कि वे पल-पल झूठ बोलती हैं, क्योंकि वो कोमल हृदय वाली होती हैं लेकिन वे बातों को छिपाने के लिए अकसर झूठ का सहारा ले लेती हैं यह सत्य है। रावण के अनुसार पत्नियां अकसर झूठ बोलकर खुद भी फंसती हैं और अपने पति को भी दुविधा में डालती हैं। लेकिन सच एक ना एक दिन सामने आ ही जाता है, फिर उन्हें इस बात का पछतावा होता है , बहुत बार मुसिबतों का सामना करना पड़ता है। एक झूठ को छुपाने के लिए सौ झूठ बोलने पड़ते हैं।

 

अस्थिर और चंचल

महिलाएं अस्थिर विचारधारा और चंचल चित्त वाली होती हैं इसलिए उनके मन को समझ पाना बहुत मुश्किल होता है। रावण के अनुसार पत्नियों में पुरुषों की तुलना में अधिक चंचलता तथा वे चुलबुले स्वभाव की होती है। उनके विचारों में समय के साथ परिवर्तन होता रहता है उनका मन कभी भी लंबे समय के लिए एक बात पर रुकता नहीं है। और कुछ ही समय में वे अपनी ही कही बात पर मन बदल लेती हैं। वो अधिकांश परिस्तिथियों में सही निर्णय लेने में असमर्थ होती है l जिस कारण से परिस्थितियां अस्थिर हो जाती हैं और काबू में नहीं आती । 

 

माया रचना और स्वार्थी

रावण ने पत्नियों के जिस चौथे अवगुण की बात की थी वह है ‘उनके माया रचने का अवगुण’।

रावण के अनुसार स्त्रियां अपने स्वार्थ सिद्धि के लिए कई प्रकार की माया रचती हैं।  दुनिया उनकी इस माया से बेखबर होती है ! महिलाएं स्वार्थी और जिद्दी होती हैं और अपनी जिद को पूरा करने के लिए वो कहानियां गढ़ने और मोहमायी मायावी खेल भी खेल जाती हैं। रावण के अनुसार यह स्त्रियों की एक कला है, वे जानती हैं कि किस समय क्या करना है ताकि परिस्थिति उनके अनुकूल हो। अपना काम सिद्ध कराने के लिए महिलाएं क्या-क्या करती हैं, इसकी भी चर्चा की है लंकापति रावण ने. रावण की राय में अपनी बात मनवाने के लिए स्त्रियां रूठती है, रुष्ट होने का नाटक करती हैं, कई बार प्रलोभन देती हैं और साथ ही जब जरूरत पड़े तो कार्य सिद्ध कराने के लिए सामने वाले व्यक्ति को हर तरीके से मनाती भी हैं. लेकिन अंत में अपना काम करवा लेती हैं.

नोट - इस कला में पुरूष उन्हें कभी परास्त नहीं कर सकते। वह अपनी मायावी दुनियां में पुरूष को बांध कर उनसे मनचाहे काम करवा सकती हैं।

 

डरपोक होना / घबरा जाती हैं

रावण ने पत्नियों के जिस पांचवें अवगुण की बात की है वह है ‘उनका डरपोक होना’। स्त्रियां बहुत जल्दी घबरा जाती हैं, परिस्थिति में यदि वे अचानक बदलाव देख लें या विकट परिस्थितियां आते ही वो बहुत जल्दी हथियार डाल देती है और डर जाती हैं कि आगे क्या होगा। वैसे स्त्री बाहरी तौर पर तो साहस दिखाती है किन्तु अन्दर से वो डरी होती है l इसलिए बहुत बार वह बनते काम भी बिगाड़ देती हैं।

 

महिलाएं अविवेकी होती हैं

रावण ने कहा कि भले ही स्त्रियां कितनी ही तेज दिमाग +  बुद्धिमान + साहसी क्यों ना हो , लेकिन उनके मन में एक भय जरूर होता है। यह भय उनसे अजीबोगरीब कार्य करवाता है , इस भय के कारण उनकी बुद्धि भ्रष्ट हो जाती है ! विवेक खो बैठती हैं और भावेश में आकर वे बिना सोचे समझे निर्णय ले लेती हैं और बड़ी समस्या में पड़ जाती हैं। जिसका एहसास उन्हें बहुत देर में होता है और होता भी है तो मानती नहीं हैं ।

 

निर्दयता / दया नहीं दिखाती

रावण के अनुसार स्त्रियों का सातवां अवगुण है ‘निर्दयता’। वैसे तो स्त्रियां कोमल हृदय वाली + दया दिखने वाली होती हैं लेकिन जिस बात पर उन्हें दया ना आए, वे कभी उस पर भविष्य में भी दया नहीं दिखाती। यह उनका हठ ही समझ लीजिए। ( अगर कोई एक बार उनकी नजर से उतर जाए तो वो उसे आसानी से माफ नहीं करती हैं।   )

 

अपवित्र

रावण के मुताबिक महिलाएं भले ही कपड़ों से गहनों से खुद को सजाएं लेकिन उनमें मन की साफ-सफाई का अभाव होता है । उनके मन में बहुत ही एकतरफा विचार चलते रहते हैं !

The Break Up Movie - Lesson

 The Break-Up 

Movie 2006 

Jennifer Aniston (as Brooke) & Vince Vaughn (as Gary)

Two person met on common interest way and quickly fall in love .

Despite their personality and mind set -differences , they move in together and buy a beautiful condo

 Their relationship starts to crumble when Rosy Days gone over time due ( cause )

1 - Constant arguments

2 – Not proper communication

3 - Unmet emotional needs

4 - Clashing personalities

 

Nature Character	Male	Female
Personality	laid-back , messy , Fun-loving, immature, avoidant prefers relaxing or playing video games over helping with chores or spending quality time.	Responsible, emotional, sensitive, organized. wants her man to show more appreciation and take part in building a future together.
Strengths	Charming, funny, spontaneous, laid-back ( calm & relaxed not worry about anything )	Loving, loyal, expressive, nurturing
Weaknesses	Self-centered, emotionally unaware, poor communicator	Indirect communicator, high expectations without clear expression.
Core Issue	He wants comfort and freedom, not realizing relationships need effort. He assumes Brooke will always be there	She wants emotional presence, appreciation, and partnership, but often expects him to “just know” what she needs

  

Small things boiled over –  Cause

Male side	Female side
Male felt- criticized and misunderstood	Female felt unappreciated and emotionally neglected
वो बोलती क्यों नहीं	उसको दिखता नहीं क्या

  Post-Breakup Conflict:

Instead of resolving things, they try to make each other jealous and uncomfortable in petty , passive-aggressive ways.

 Passive-aggressive battles between two begin -

Female starts dating other men to make Her Man jealous.

Man  throws wild parties and flirts with women to show he’s not being disturbed, worried, or upset .

 

They each try to one-up the other, but deep down, both are hurt and confused.

 

Female still hopes her Man  will fight to win her back by showing he’s willing to change . She wants him to prove that he values her.

But Man doesn’t understand this — he thinks she’s just playing games, and he's too proud to respond.

 Turning Point:

Eventually, Female realizes her Man wont going to change ( not because he doesn’t care, but because he doesn’t know how to meet her emotional needs. )

Male  on the other hand, finally understands her pain — but his realization comes too late.

 As he realized he tries to fix things with a grand gesture (cleaning the condo , buying concert tickets )  but by then , Her Female has emotionally checked out.

 

The result =  They break up, but neither wants to move out of the condo because they co-own

  

Life Lessons:

 

Love alone isn't enough	Relationships require effort , communication, compromise, appreciation — not just affection or attraction or simmping
Small issues can become big if ignored	Neglecting each other’s emotional needs , failing to listen , avoiding honest conversations can slowly destroy love.
Don’t wait until it's too late	if any of one partner silently hopes the other will change. But if nothing changes , even the deepest love can die. Change comes from understanding , not ego  Gary's effort at the end is too little also too late
You can care for someone but still be incompatible	Even two good people can be wrong for each other — and that’s okay. Because no one is perfect and all depends on condition of upbringing Wise understanding is needed
Unspoken needs go unmet	अनकहे ज़रूरतें पूरी नहीं होतीं Ex. - Brooke expects Gary to show love through help; Gary needs her to say it clearly.
Trying to “win” post-breakup fails	Jealousy tactics only deepen resentment So later if try to fix its like using of crack mirror with tape
Emotionally neglected damage relation	Brooke doesn't feel “seen,” and it kills her love.
Letting go can be an act of maturity	Staying in a toxic or unhappy relationship just for comfort or pride can make things worse. Sometimes walking away is healthier.