Pet Peeves in Relation

 

Pet peeves in relations

 Not taking part in home chores –

Like - Not helping in cooking , cleaning , grocery shopping , declutching not cleaning the toilet keeping things here and there not on right place , leaving wet towels on bed or sofa , throwing shoes all over the floor . And if comes home late every day or work on holidays or spending time in mall after office to avoid all of these responsibilities . Making a mess while cooking and not cleaning it up

 Keeping score  -

Like   I made dinner 4 times this week , and you made it only 3 times , or He left me on situations , now I will do the same or If she can like her ex’s picture , so  why can’t I ,    Playing tit for tat game in relations

 Different food preferences –

Strict vegan , Vaishnav – married ( dating ) with non-vegetarian or if one veggi  and one non -  then eating non veg like chicken or onion garlic every day and / or hate that food which other love

 Being clingy & attention seeker  -

Like childish nature , wanting more & more hugs and kisses or romantic words or constantly asking for attention

( well all of this appears to be cute & lovely  when two people go in relation initially whether in dating or marriage . But once the initial rosy phase is over and even then still craving for such those things )

 Annoying behavior  -

Like weird laugh or making face or lifting nose or frowning in the middle of a serious discussion or group prayer or quiet place . Opposite expression in between social gathering conversation

 Always on their phone  -  Like –

Habit - Carrying phone everywhere from washroom to bedroom to the dining table to kitchen or as if they are protecting some big state secret in it . result of this - It makes feel that living with the walking shadow of a person who hardly ever looks up from the screen or pays attention partner things like conversation , looks etc.

 Always checking on Spouse phone or acting jealous –

Like ask spouse phone in the name of - playing games or ordering food or checking something or my net or network is not working

 Obsessive cleaning  - 

Not putting the things back from where it was like forgot the exact spot and the angle it was placed in while putting it back .

 Arguing in public   - 

tendency of creating scenes in public spaces over the smallest issues . Letting people around - know about personal matters or he did wrong or culprit  or Criticizing their partner in public

Talking / detailing personal issues with friends  - 

There’s nothing wrong with close friend. But if a person do that all the time ( that will put relation in problem )

 Not showing interest in your interests  - 

Putting friendship or other relatives above own personal relation - Ignoring partner and give importance to own Family or friends or even Ex  or Still Friendly With Exes 

 Constantly Comparing your Relationship to Others - 

Every person have their own experiences, and it is not like that if something works for another couple doesn't mean it will work for others too  , Complaining / Broadcasting the details of the relationship on social media , Sharing Partner Flaws With Others , Oversharing about your relationship with everyone else

 Parents being too involved in their relationships or involving own parents in personal relations ( too much or even small petty issues ) - Gossiping or Talking negatively about  in-law’s and family

 Difference in apology language / repentance in actions   - 

Like by saying instantly  “ OK I am sorry for hurting you ” so now wash the hands off from matter. ( अच्छा sorry बोल दिया ना अब  - इसमे इतना भी क्या हो गया ) And intention behind this is to make other not to say or talk on that matter even he/she is right or want to solve the issue .

 Bad personal hygiene like smelling body , dirty inner wear including sox , not washing up after intimacy

 Letting your partner make all decisions or Letting Me take all the decision , Trying / forcing to make you agree with their views . ( and if not agree then creating scenes / arguments and tantrums )

 when they’re trying to talk on topic then keep Interrupting their partners by speaking on other things continuously so their partner forget the topic because he/she don’t like the topic or its negative for them

 Nagging

Being bossy

Using babyish nicknames in public

Procrastinating

No sense of gratitude

Being unfaithful  Dishonesty Breaking promises  

too much partying or drinking

Being late all the time and then saying its Normal

Talking in sarcastic way / ताने मरना / तानों में बात करना !

 Calling repeatedly when you are not answering or calling or sending Msg when other is busy

 Bad Table manners - Chewing with an open mouth and making sound while eating

Not taking any responsibility for problems in the relationship

 Not paying for things (for dating)    -  Like – always crying or बहाना मार देना that I have no money or I forget my wallet or I have but this money is for my dad or mom or one person leaves to take a phone call or went washroom just when the check is about to come

 Stealing from wallets or eatables portions   ( Roomies or GF – BF )

 कुछ भी दे दोगे इनको और तो भी in last they will say what you did for me just nothing और ये तो सारी दुनिया करती है कुछ नया थोड़ी ना किया है मेरे लिए !

कितना भी कर दो कभी खुश नहीं होते ( but in reality they did nothing or just 5% )

 GL feel that he or she don’t like this or that or things going not in his or her favor when someone is talking normally to them  then they quickly say – their favorite words

why your are arguing , mind your tone , you don’t respect , and making other quite or provoking other then argument start  and stop talking on base point and then GL in situation of blaming n defending n giving clarification

 Deafening silence -

silence or lack of response, when people expect you to speak or act

no reaction or response to something that was said or done.

Passive Aggressive Behavior ( click here) -