Passive aggressive
Passive-aggressive behavior is a type of
aggression that is not direct and is expressed subtly in actions or words. Or to
express anger and related emotions without directly communicating these
feelings .
Instead of getting visibly angry, express
hostility / anger in calm or detached manner or in action
or behavior or even words to hurt and confuse their target . They have ability
to deny that their behavior is aggressive.
Without open up about feelings of anger, frustration, disappointment – they say these kind of words like “ as you wish “ , “Sure / ok , whatever ” or “ Yes , that’s fine ” — but internally , they feel quite opposite.
Recognizing passive-aggressiveness
1 - Silence , bitterness,
hostility, resentment when other people make requests
2 - Pouting , sulking , giving silent treatment when
things don’t happen as their planned way
3 – Intentionally delaying , making mistakes , working
less than efficiently when they don’t want to do something or showing procrastination
or pretending forget about things जो कि पहले नहीं थे
4 - frequent complaints about feeling unappreciated ,
misunderstood , deceived
5 - habit of blaming others for own problems
6 - habit of making vague criticisms ( when other are not
sure about them whether they helping or putting other down ) , Vague-booking ( to gain sympathy or
appreciations )
eg – if anyone upset them - instead of settling or
working on situation directly , they Post on social media to air up their anger
& frustrations.
7 – Showing Weaponized Kindness –
eg. A is angry on B because B forgot A birthday and then ,
in turn , “go for extra bash ” to celebrate A birthday ( up to here its ok and
good ) , then A make comment - how they could never ignore such an important
event.
8 - चतुराई से / गूढ़ तरीके से – making comment
intentionally on that situation or topic which other person is uncomfortable (
about weight to fatty , or कोई पडदे वाली बात )